Ok, by now you’ve probably heard about the woman in California who gave birth to octuplets. Well, it turns out that she already has SIX kids at home – her parents’ home. Am I the only one who’s thinking “WTF”?
Don’t get me wrong. I love children. I’m the proud mother of an awesome 11-month old boy and I am hoping to give him at least one sibling. I am thankful that we have the technology (ie. IVF) and resources (ie. adoption, surrogacy) available to help those who have difficulty conceiving and want to be parents. But, to bring more children into an already overburdened home is selfish and irresponsible.
Did the doctors know that she already had six kids at home? Shouldn’t there be some sort of screening process prior to implantation? If you were an expectant mother that day, how do you feel knowing that forty-six hospital staff and four delivery rooms were used for the octuplets’ births?
Once it was determined that she was going to have a multiple birth, doctors did suggest “selective reduction”. She obviously refused. Ding, ding, ding! That would be the proverbial alarm bells going off. Hello? You already have SIX mouths at home! It is simply irresponsible to add another EIGHT to the mix (actually the initial ultrasound showed seven but you get my point). Not only is it physically exhausting and risky to carry that many babies, but there are many complications associated with multiple births as the infants are usually pre-term. Yes, reducing the number of embryos would have been cruel but isn’t it better to better to increase the chances of having a healthy baby than to risk having babies born with developmental and cognitive issues? Although, the babies are reportedly doing well, doctors say they still face the possibility of having lung, brain, and intestinal problems or severe disabilities such as cerebral palsy.
Yes, large families can be wonderful. My husband is the eldest of nine. But, a great deal of responsibility and money is needed to meet the basic needs of so many lives. I’m sure that this woman has nothing but love for her children. I do wish her and her family well. But, there has to be some accountability. It is reported that she is also on welfare. How do you feel about your tax dollars going to support her?
She is single. There apparently is no father in the picture (various reports state that a sperm donor was used). Her parents have lost their house supporting her. Her mother filed for bankruptcy two years ago. Her father now has to go Iraq to earn some money to help out his daughter. This woman’s parents are either saints or have been brainwashed.
We also have to think about the children in all of this. How much time do you think she’ll be able to devote to the six kids she already has at home? I have just one baby and he takes up all of my time. She now has EIGHT more little ones to care for. That’s FOURTEEN total. There should be some sort of investigation into how she is going to provide for them. Their welfare is at stake.
What was she thinking when she saw that ultrasound? I hope to God she wasn’t seeing book deals, TV shows, donations, and sponsorships. Cha-ching! That may be the problem actually. There are too many TV shows now that glamorize unusually large families. In all honesty, I think a reality show would be the only way she’s going to afford having that many children.
It does disturb me when I read about people referring to the octuplets as a “litter”. Come on! Some day they’ll grow up and read these comments. How would you feel if you were likened to a puppy, cat, or piglet?
Some people have also referred to the birth as a miracle. I think we should reserve judgement. The family still has a lot physical, emotional, and financial hurdles to overcome. Not to mention, they will be subjected to intense scrutiny, curiosity, and attention from the public. It would be a miracle if they grow up to be healthy and well-adjusted citizens.
OK, I’m done ranting now.